Monday, 29 July 2013

July 29: Consciously Make An Effort To Eat Healthier

31 Days of Self Love
Day 29: Consciously Make An Effort To Eat Healthier

Eating a balanced diet with consciousness about getting good nutrition is a wonderful act of self-love. In the long run, eating healthy will make you feel better physically, which improves your life even more. Even if you don’t eat healthy consistently, every nutritious effort you make builds self-love. When you make a conscious choice to eat more veggies or not finish dessert or get the grilled instead of the fried chicken, say, “I’m making this choice to say ‘I love me!’”
Small efforts add up. As you eat a little healthier, you might find it easier to do and keep going. By doing so, you may drop a pound without trying or notice your digestion is better or have more energy. Those are some of the benefits of eating healthier. This act of self-love has many rewards that will improve your quality of life. As you feel better and your happiness increases from changes in diet, self-love blossoms.
I have only just begun doing this and I am pleased to say I am feeling much better and that is only from a few days!
NaBloPoMo From BlogherMonday, July 29, 2013
Can you connect easily with your feelings and understand where they come from?

That would be a big NO! I have locked my emotions down tight. I know this because I have been told I am cold and unemotional. I know that only really big emotions make their way to the surface. Of course there are others who say I am too emotional but I just don't see it. About the only emotion I give free rein to is happiness and that is because if it is strong enough I burst into laughter.
365 Photo Challenge
Day 29: Ride
On A Bike | With Wheels | With Movement
Photo A Day Challenge
Day 29. Perspective: This is a photography technique. I’ll share how to shoot perspective in a blog post soon!

July 28: Redefine Love Life

31 Days of Self Love
Day 28: Redefine Love Life

It’s common to make a romantic partner more important than yourself, but that doesn’t make it right. YOU should be the most important love of your life. That doesn’t take away from loving others too but does assure your place of honor in how you prioritize your needs and make sure you get enough happiness boosters. And, it assures that’s you’ll always be loved. Many people sacrifice their happiness to please someone else to feel loved. But, does that give you a real love life?
The more love you give yourself, the more you have to give and the more you attract, since self-love is attractive. Redefine the concept of love life to include self-love. Let self-love motivate you to only need approval from yourself. A love life based on self-love feels great! Build yours and watch it grow!
Sunday Sermon
365 Photo Challenge
Day 28: A Boy
A Young Man | A Lad | A Son
Photo A Day Challenge
28. This is new!: What’s something new in your life? Is it something newly created in your town? A new purchase? A new baby? Snap and share it.

Saturday, 27 July 2013

July 27: Let Go of Striving for Perfection

31 Days of Self Love
Day 27:  Let Go of Striving for Perfection
We’re often our own worst enemies when we judge ourselves more harshly than others would. We see ourselves through the distorted vision of blowing up our perceived flaws. Consistent perfection is impossible. A perfect rose is perfect until its petals wilt. A perfect romantic partner loses his or her pedestal when he or she gets moody, demanding, or critical. Perfection can change quickly.

Striving for perfection reinforces low self-esteem. There will always be a flaw that needs work, a pound to be lost, or a skill to be improved. But you can goof up or have a down day and still love yourself. Affirm, “I accept myself exactly the way I am” often during the day. Eventually you’ll believe it!
NaBloPoMo From Blogher
No Question Today
365 Photo Challenge
Day 27: Candid
Informal | Unposed | Honest
On seeing themselves on the stores Big Brother system
Photo A Day Challenge
Day 27: Black and White
Take a photo in black + white – you could use a filter, or shoot something that actually IS black and white. Up to you!

Friday, 26 July 2013

July 26: Get Exercise

31 Days of Self Love
Day 26: Get Exercise

Moving is healthy. Aerobics helps your heart and burns calories. Weight training makes your body stronger. Instead of dieting to look good for someone else, exercise for YOU. Staying fit helps you live longer, increases energy, reduces stress, slows the effects of aging, maintains the immune system, and improves self-esteem. Looking better is just a bonus!

Take control! Find an exercise buddy or class. Be creative on busy days. Walk! It burns calories and strengthens the heart. Get a jump rope. Use stairs instead of elevators when possible. I go up and down stairs when time is tight. Do calisthenics at home. Use dumbbells. Find ways to get movin’ and groovin’. Dance! Take pride in any effort to improve your body. It’s hard for some of us. When you actually do something, enjoy having control over old habits. Don’t berate yourself if you don’t do “enough.” Even a little helps! That’s love!

Do not get me started on this topic... it is a very important thing to do and I do a lot of the things they suggest. I don't do "enough" to lose weight but I am maintaining myself at a certain level and that is a good thing. I constantly remind myself that everything I do uses calories, maybe not a lot but I am still burning a few everytime I walk to the bathroom or climb the stairs or take Coco out to pee. 

NaBloPoMo From Blogher
Friday, July 26, 2013
Mike White admits: "I guess I'm trying to write stuff that I, as a viewer, would connect to." Do you think you do this on your blog? 

I hope I do... I write a lot of stuff usually but this month I've been using online resources. Even so I chose one self-help topic, one opinion topic and two creative activities in the hope that somewhere in what I share someone will find something they can use.

365 Photo Challenge
Day 26: Science

Experiment | Systems | Observation

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 26. The everyday: The thing that I love about this challenge is that you can see beauty in the ordinary, so look around you, find something that you see most days and capture it in a photo.

July 25: Stamp Out Jealousy

31 Days of Self Love
Day 25: Stamp Out Jealousy

Most of us have felt jealousy at least once. It’s a normal response to seeing something you want that you don’t have and someone else does. Jealousy can be blatant, like envying someone who has what you want badly or more subtle, like having a little niggling feeling when you want to be happy for a friend who lost weight when you wish you could be thinner or when someone gets a fantastic job when you hate as yours. It can be hard to watch others who are thrilled with having things you want too!


Feeling Jealous is not loving, since it reflects dissatisfaction about what you don’t have, instead of joy for what you do have. Be happy for others! What someone else has takes nothing away from you. When you can replace jealousy with blessings for the person who has what you want, your chances of attracting it increase as your mood and outlook get more positive. The more you’re happy for what others attract, the more you can attract too! And since it feels good, it increased self-love.

NaBloPoMo From Blogher
Thursday, July 25, 2013
William Plomer defined creativity as "the power to connect the seemingly unconnected." Discuss.

365 Photo Challenge
Day 25: Progress

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 25. Ground: Depending on where we live we have different surfaces on the ground; cement, grass, dirt… show us yours.

Wednesday, 24 July 2013

July 24: Tune in to What You Want

31 Days of Self Love
Day 24: Tune in to What You Want

We all have desires, cravings, and things we think we should do. Choosing what to do, or not do, should take some thought so you can determine what's truly in your best interest. Often we want to do something for the wrong reasons. DoorMats make choices that will please others but might not please themselves!! That is not loving! Nor is it healthy. Nor does it bring happiness.


Whenever you’re about to make a decision, or take an action or agree to something someone else wants, ask yourself, “Who am I doing this for?” Is it something YOU want, or are you doing it to avoid taking risks, to soothe a negative emotion, or to make someone else happy? If it’s not about what YOU want, do you best to reconsider your choice. Doing what's in YOUR own best interest says, “I love me” because in the long run these choices will increase your happiness!

I have chosen to bold this whole thing today because I think this is a very important  point. As a doormat myself it has been very empowering to say "I am not going to do this because it is something someone else wants me to do and it is not something I want to do." Hopefully that makes sense to you it certainly does to me. Saying no to that one more thing feels good!

NaBloPoMo From Blogher
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Joe Nichols said, "Being an entertainer includes knowing how to connect with an audience." Can you be a good entertainer without the connection?

 No I don't think so even movie actors connect with their audience because they know who they are entertaining.

365 Photo Challenge
Day 24: Action

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 24: D is for…: Show a photo of something starting with the letter D.

Tuesday, 23 July 2013

July 23: List Your Blessings

31 Days of Self Love
Day 23:  List Your Blessings
You’ve probably heard it many times but that’s because it’s true. If you want to love yourself, focus on your blessings. Write down the things that make you smile or that you feel good about having. Then read each out loud, starting with, “I’m grateful for______.” The more you appreciate your blessings, the better you feel. The better you feel, the more you’ll fall in love with you.

Count your blessings every day. Add to your list whenever you can. Look for things to be grateful for. It will help you appreciate your life more!
NaBloPoMo From Blogher
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
Mark Zuckerberg has said about his site: "The thing that we are trying to do at Facebook is just help people connect and communicate more efficiently." Do you think he succeeded?
I have to say yes but it is more than that. I can see what is happening in the life of relatives I want to spend time with but can't. For me it is a perpetual family reunion sans the alcohol and the fights
365 Photo Challenge
Day 23: Something hot

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 23: I drew this

Monday, 22 July 2013

July 22: Take a Break from Stress

31 Days of Self Love
Day 22: Take a Break from Stress

It doesn’t matter what the world throws at you. Things at work may be frenetic. Your romantic partner is driving you crazy. Your kids are getting into trouble. The weather is miserable. Your mother is demanding your attention and calling you all day long. Do you LET all these things affect your mood and perspective of how good life is? Unless you consciously choose a different direction, stress will beat you up!


Allowing stress to go unchecked is VERY unloving to you! Doing something to relieve it, even temporarily, says, “I love me!” When you feel stressed, stop and do some deep breathing, even for just a minute. It can calm you down Find things that make you happy and focus on them instead of on problems. Enjoy just looking at the sunshine or watching the rain fall. Visualize a place that makes you happy. Find something that reduces your stress and do it regularly. Give yourself the gift of a more relaxed you. It’s YOUR choice—let stress control you or YOU take control of the stress so it doesn’t take over your life. Less stress leaves more room to be happy, and feel self-love.

NaBloPoMo From Blogher
Monday, July 22, 2013
Steve Jobs said: "You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future." Discuss.

I looked at this and debated rather I should speak my mind about it or not. I chose to speak. He says that you have to trust that the dots connect in the future but that isn't really true. If you are in control and have a plan then you can make the dots connect. Of course you need to leave some flexibility in your plan just in case one step takes longer than you expected or something comes up that means you have to take a different path than you expected. But if you know what your ultimate goal is then you can make the dots connect even when you have to take a detour.

365 Photo Challenge
Day 22: A Framework

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 22: Grey

July 21: Sunday Sermon-Let Faith Support You

31 Days of Self Love
Day 21: Let Faith Support You

Self-Love is a process that builds over time. Small loving acts are like little steps that stimulate self-love. I consider faith to be the glue—the power tool for building self-love and becoming an empowered person. Become more conscious of where you thoughts go when you have a problem. Try using faith for small issues and as you see it works, try more. The more you see faith work, the more you’ll trust it. The more you try and have a positive outcome, the more you’ll be motivated to use faith as a tool for getting through life in a happier and relaxed way.


You get as much as your mind allows. If you believe you can, you can. The contrary is true too. Be careful not to attract negatives. Faith is a solid gift of love to you. I implore you to use it if you want a happier life!

Sunday Sermon

As I have said before  I do not like the Christian definition of Faith, it comes with too many strings attached. Please before you get your panties in a bunch let me explain.

I had a dream a long time ago, I sat in a church and during the sermon the preacher pulled out a book and said "Within these pages are the rules  you must follow to be a good christian". Within the dream the book of rules was thicker than the bible and consisted of instructions on not only how to pray but the way a person must appear to be a good christian. Rules like a woman must never cut her hair and it should always be done in a bun or controlled in some way because a woman should never show the true glory of her hair except to her husband.

That dream turned me off organized religion. I have a difficult time following rules I don't think make sense besides I tried that hair thing and my hair is so thick that I actually got tension headaches trying to carry the weight of it around. Honest injun, my hair was down to the middle of my back and it was so heavy even in a pony tail that it gave me a headaches, it is like the big knot of stress so many of us are familiar with, my whole body was tense from trying to keep my head up and forward. 

So what am I talking about when I talk about faith? The cynics out there are not going to like this but it needs to be said. I believe that all people no matter what kind of dickhead they seem to be are inherently good. I think that if you approached even the most evil person in the world in just the right way you would find a streak of golden goodness inside them. The problem of course is finding that gold.  I don't search for it, I just treat them as I would treat myself and I figure that will reach them more quickly than if I appeared to be searching them and their behaviour for that little bit of light.

I know taking people on face value can be difficult. I know this because I struggle with trust all the time still it doesn't stop me from smiling and saying hi to people I meet. I don't help out as much as I would like to but I am determined to change that. I know saying hi to someone as you pass them on the street is considered dangerous these days but guess what that is one of the rules I think doesn't make sense. If a disaster happens and we refused to talk to strangers how on earth are we going to survive. Self-sufficiency is a good thing but there will always be things you need that someone else has and trading is the best most spiritual way of getting what you need. If you refuse to talk to a stranger how on earth are you going to be able to make a trade?

The bottom line is you have to have faith in your fellow man and that basically they do not want to harm you. In fact they are probably as wary of you as you are of them so open up people. Share your light, share your love and trust that everything will turn out right. You will be surprised at how much love you get back.

365 Photo Challenge
Day 21: Urban Art

Photo A Day Challenge
Day 21: Fav Food